Once in a while we have Goddess Gatherings, bringing women together to expand our horizons while supporting and encouraging each other. This past weekend we gathered under the New Moon in Scorpio. Moon energy is about emotions and Scorpio energy deals with becoming more conscious and to allow something that does not serve us anymore to die so a new beginning can be born. We focused on negative emotions which suck the energy out of us.
Sit quietly and take a look at the scope of your life. Single out a discouraging pattern that keeps re-occurring, perhaps a consistent struggle with finances, our love life or career etc. Then identify the overpowering emotion/feeling that always seems to accompany this situation. On an unconscious level this emotion/feeling has mastery over us. We believe it to be stronger than we are, and we go to great lengths to avoid the pain we think it will cause us.
Our intention isn't to get rid of this emotion/feeling but rather to make it our "noble teacher" and bring it back into the whole where we once thought we were broken or fragmented. Like the Phoenix, the negative aspect will die and from the ashes be re-born into a positive tool to help us grow and mature and move beyond the re-occurring situation. As Wayne Dyer so wisely stated "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change". That which we resist - persists. Until we face our fears surrounding this particular "issue" we are caught is a vicious cycle and it will only become more extreme. This is not a punishment. Our lives, higher-selves, universe (whatever it is that is greater than our self) is just talking to us. We are meant to be happy and being uncomfortable is just a form of communication. A poke to wake us up and help us realize that we are not living authentically and we need to make some changes.
How do we do this? Take frustration for example. Where is the blessing? It can be a motivator. Use it as an indicator that it is time to take action before we find ourselves in an overly frustrating situation again. How about insecurity? If this is a re-occurring emotion we can then focus on doing things that build our confidence. We can also work on being comfortable with insecurity. The feeling of security is just an illusion we use to comfort ourselves. Find joy in the chaos, mystery and the "unknown" of life. Unhappiness - lack of joy. Use this emotion to learn more about human behavior. So much is being written now on happiness. For instance, scientists have found that the part of the brain that lights up when we exhibit compassion also overlaps with the happiness area. Go out and do some volunteer work, increase compassion and your brain will automatically do the rest. The list goes on and on. Research the emotion - become an expert and heal yourself. That will give you confidence along with so many other benefits.
Once we have worked on "deathing" the old belief about the negativity of our emotion/feeling and "re-birthed" it into a positive force we then must bring it into our everyday life. The New Moon is when we want to set intentions for the coming month. This can be your internal project for the next 30 days. It is not an easy course - it takes vigilance, but the rewards are a happier, less stressful existence. And when we work on ourselves we elevate the energy and vibration of our daily lives, those who are close to us and eventually the world. Imagine if everyone did this type of work on themselves?
To help stay focused recite a positive affirmation or mantra to change the neurological path ways in your brain. Instead of letting your inner dialogue strengthen the belief you are frustrated, insecure or unhappy recite "My actions are successful", I am confident" I am Joyful". Wash your brain of the negative and replace it with the positive. Write in on your bathroom mirror so you start your day on a positive note. Read uplifting articles and books to raise your vibration. Find a talisman to carry with you, or wear something that can be a gentle reminder to stay tough - to do your inner work when the situation, emotion or feeling pops up again. Every time you move to conscious behavior instead of reacting you are overcoming the hold this emotion/feeling has on you. You are now becoming the master and moving into a more enlightened state of being.
We would love to hear from you. If you have any thoughts or experiences, please share. Tell us how you handle negative emotions and how you help yourself not just cope but rise above and thrive. We are working on this project this whole month and any suggestions or insight is greatly appreciated. Together we can do this!! Sharing elevates us all.